Dose?—?Anotnio Manaligod

This virtual safe space protects against triggers and memories of intense trauma.

It’s hard to find good lady porn. Sometimes, women have no choice but to gloss over misguided, unrealistic and frankly offensive options. Sure, there’s a virtual ocean of erotica on the web, but most of it was clearly produced by men and for men. Women who have suffered from sexual assault have an even smaller pool of content to choose from—yes, sexual assault survivors get horny too.

For them, watching porn means running the risk of exposing themselves to triggers and memories of intense trauma. But now there’s a safe space that changes everything.

Clit List is an online online database of feminist porn, carefully curated with sexual assault survivors in mind. The index includes reviews of every genre, with thoughtfulness toward the sexual acts portrayed.

The idea came from Pavan Amara, founder of the London-based My Body Back Project, which works to empower women who have experienced sexual violence. Her organization hosts group discussions on topics like masturbation and how to reclaim sexual control.

“What ended up happening is that they’d try and do that with porn, and they’d just come across misogynistic, violent, horrible stuff that replicated what had happened to them, or showed rape as though it were normal.”

Amara noticed victims were expressing interest in porn but were fearful that some content could trigger harmful, violent flashbacks. In an interview with the Daily Dot, she said:

“These women wanted to be able to explore their sexuality in a safe way.” She continued, “…What ended up happening is that they’d try and do that with porn, and they’d just come across misogynistic, violent, horrible stuff that replicated what had happened to them, or showed rape as though it were normal. I thought, This is obviously a problem we should do something about, so we created a list of porn that women can safely watch?—?with no violence, that won’t make us feel degraded.”

But both desire and trauma are relative. What a woman finds arousing or upsetting will depend on her own personal experience, coupled with her likes and turn-ons. How can TCL filter what its users will find erotic or offensive? It can’t. But Clit List manager Ella Eora watches endless hours of porn and takes scrupulous notes on the film’s themes, sex acts and phrases to ensure others have a safe viewing experience.

“Porn’s not just a man’s game anymore,” Eora said. “A lot of women watch porn, so why aren’t there more services aimed at them?”

Can I get a slow clap for Ella, y’all?

In addition to pornography, the TCL also reviews erotic literature, art, photography, toys, tutorials and advice.

The site isn’t just a place that helps women get off—it provides victims a way to gain back control of their sexuality. “I think a lot women who haven’t experienced any form of violence are using TCL because they’ve realized men aren’t essential to their sex lives,” said Amara. “They’re a nice added extra though, a bit like a cup of tea. We all love a cup of tea, and who doesn’t look forward to a nice cup of tea when they come home from work? But it’s not essential.”